There should be NO safer place for moms than with other moms, right? WRONG!!
Sadly, the women that are supposed to be naturally nurturing (you just had a baby, after all!) are the ones that are tearing each other apart.
- “Their baby’s socks are NEVER matching!”
- “Girl, did you just buy Goldfish crackers??!! My child ONLY eats the organic bunny crackers. . .”
- “You’ve heard of a washcloth or wipe, right? Then clean your kid’s face!”
We’ve probably never verbalized these thoughts to the faces of these other moms, but let’s be honest, we’ve thought these things and dozens of different “zings” toward other moms. We can blame things like culture, pressures of a modernized society, the need for both parents to work, but the truth is: only WE, as a society of women and mothers, can turn this horrific trend around. So let’s be proactive, Ok?!
1. Really want to send a spiteful little comment via social media? DON’T! Go back to what Thumper taught us in Bambi: “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”
2. Practice the Golden Rule: do unto others what you would have them do unto you. If you wouldn’t appreciate what you’re about to do or say, then don’t do or say it.
3. Use your words to bring LIFE: Replace what you were going to say (the negative stuff) with something encouraging!
4. NEVER FORGET: this mom thing is ridiculously hard. No one has it all figured out, including you.
Let’s love and appreciate the journey we are on and let’s help other moms on this path as well. The circle of moms should be the safest circle, and only we can change the trend. “Mommy Shaming” or “Mom Shaming” isn’t yet recognized by the Urban Dictionary (shocking, right??), so let’s band together to make sure it doesn’t NEED to be recognized!
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile,a listening ear, an honest accomplishment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” ~ Leo Buscaglia
– by Kahla Dombroski